Today’s post is somewhat personal. For a couple of years now, I have had a very light sleep. In fact, I have suffered from insomnia. As a result, not only have my days become difficult sometimes, but it has also been a challenge to come up with a sleeping arrangement that works well for me while maintaining our Mistress/slave dynamic.
When the slave snores
I’m not a lucky Mistress. Unfortunately, I got myself a mouth-breather as a slave. That’s why I cannot bear him in my bedroom. Instead, he spends his nights in his jail cell (see also my post on Key 4 to a successful Femdom relationship). Come bedtime, I require his full attention. Before he gets locked up, he usually has to make tea and give me a massage. Once in the cell, he has to cross his arms in front of him. I then make him wear leather cuffs that are connected by a chain behind his back. The restraint is similar to the position a straightjacket would put him in, and particularly well suited for long-term bondage including sleep. Additionally, I always wrap a belt around his arms to make it absolutely impossible for him to escape from that position.
When you miss your slave
I might be a Goddess to my slave, but allegedly I am also human. And humans need human contact – snuggling, cuddling, feeling your partner’s warmth. With my slave’s snoring and my light sleep, it has become our routine that he sleeps in the cell. Sometimes, however, I do let him sleep in my bed. He’s tall and moves a lot while asleep, thereby repeatedly waking me up. First, I had to make him breath through his nose. In the past, we used bondage tape to cover his mouth at night. But the tape kept moving, and the result was that I ended up once again sleeping next to the sounds of a timber saw. So we got him a leather hood. Nicely padded and built mainly for sensory deprivation, it had holes only around the nostrils, but none for the mouth and eyes. By pulling the laces, it can be made tight enough so that he can barely speak and has to keep his mouth closed. No more snoring.
Then I had to do something about his nightly movements. Depending on my mood, there are two things I do with him. Sometimes I keep the strict straightjacked-style bondage like when he sleeps in the cell. When I’m in a good mood, I only handcuff him, hands in front, and chain the cuffs to his torso so he cannot stretch his arms fully.
Getting a good night’s rest, I learned the hard way, is one of the most important things in life.