In the two previous posts of this series on the four keys of success to my Femdom relationship, we focused on the genitals and ass, the importance of keeping them locked up on a regular (butt-plug) if not semi-permanent (cockcage) basis. Keys 3 and 4 will focus more on the slave’s radius of action.
Key 3: The handcuffs
A staple of many a household. However, this post is not about spicing up your sexlife with naughty toys. It’s about dominance and submission – a game of structural relationship dynamics, not sex practices. Not counting the sleeping arrangement, my slave spends roughly half a dozen hours per week with his hands cuffed behind his back. For starters, I like pegging a lot. I regularly summon him to my bedroom and fuck him with my strap-on. We covered in Key 2 that the lock of the cockcage usually remains closed throughout the act. Since ass-fucking is such an act of dominance and submission, I almost always handcuff him. Like that, I can hold on to the chain of the cuffs and sway him by pulling and pushing the chain.
As I explain in my dedicated post on that topic, me-time is important to me. And while I have some time for myself, I generally do not want my slave to creep around the house and bother me. So unless he’s doing something particularly productive, I usually cuff his hands – just to keep them off me.