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Money in a 24/7 household
Money in a 24/7 household is the topic people skip until something bounces. They ask about chastity, plugs, and sleeping arrangements. Fewer ask about the bank login. That is odd, because money is where a lot of “24/7” arrangements quietly fall apart. A cage is visible. An overdrawn account is also visible, just later, and…
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Locktober halfway: keep the chastity rule
Locktober halfway is where most couples invent an exit. We are past the first week. The announcement posts are done. The novelty has worn off. What remains is a normal Tuesday: work emails, a kitchen that will not clean itself, and a key that is still in my possession when he would rather negotiate. I…
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Bad choices
Last night, I gave my slave a choice. He had been locked in his cockcage for over a month. I had been teasing him a lot during that time, fucked him in the ass several times. “Do you want a day of freedom?”, was my question. You won’t believe it, but that idiot responded with:…
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Femdom Forced Labor Camp – How to get things done
Living the Femdom lifestyle is all fun and games. But sometimes you just need things to get done. In today’s post, I am giving you a plan how to gear your Femdom dynamic in such a way that it boosts your slave’s productivity for a given task or project. Example: I needed my slave to…
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Dealing with limp dick (erectile dysfunction) the Femdom way
Here’s what happened to me recently: I had an extensive session with My slave. Some punishing, some pegging. Then I started riding him. We was the luckiest guy on Earth, finally getting some action. He had been locked for weeks. And then something unexpected happened: his dick went limp. Unexpected, but – if we’re frank…
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Locktober – The month of chastity, and more!
Every year in October, there is a little ritual amongst Mistresses and slaves around the world. The slave gets locked up in a chastity device (a cockcage) for the entire month. I, however, don’t quite get it, it seems. When you’re in a Mistress/slave relationship, why would the slave ever *NOT* be locked? It’s an…
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The triple pain and reward challenge
I’m not into rewards. I command, I discipline, I punish if necessary. Serving me is the reward. However, when I feel that my slave has performed particularly well, I am willing to let him earn a reward. Note the word “earn”. Rewards do not come automatically – slave has to complete a challenge that is…
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5 Ways of Communicating during BDSM Play
Talking too much can be a mood killer. However, BDSM requires a lot of communication and connection between the two (or more) people engaging in it. The best approach is to communicate extensively *before* engaging in play. For a successful scene, Domme and submissive need to know each to know each other’s wishes and boundaries.…
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Femdom in public, but discretely
To me, Femdom is a way of life, which is why slave and I also live it outside the house. I would be lying if I were to tell you that I walk around town wearing my latex catsuit, holding my collared slave on a leash. Real life doesn’t work that way. Family, vanilla friends,…
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Breathing training for mouthbreathers
My slave has the unfortunate habit of breathing through his mouth instead of his nose. I can’t stand it, which is why I decided to take things in my own hands. Why breathing through your mouth is bad According to WebMD, breathing through the mouth can dry out gums and the tissue that lines your…
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Series: Punishments – The Aftermath
Your slave misbehaved, you took action and administered a specific punishment for a specific misdemeanor. As we saw in the first post of this series, the punishment is effective if it fits the deed. You put some thought in the beginning: you explained the reason for the treatment, and you set a course of action.…
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Series: Punishments – VII. Physical punishments
Physical punishments can be divided in two groups. First is so-called impact-play, that is everything around spanking, caning, flogging, whipping, etc. There will be plenty of opportunities to talk about those methods. For this post, however, I want to list some other suggestions, that are slightly softer in nature, albeit physical. Strenuous workouts Make your…
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Series: Punishments – VI. Behavioral punishments
As a Mistress, you will probably want to enforce or prohibit certain activities to punish your slave. Early bedtime, early morning routine A beautiful punishment, I find. Instead of letting him spend his evening going out or watching Netflix, making him go to bed early. With or without dinner – up to you. For sure,…
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Series: Punishments – V. Relational and sexual punishments
Femdom is at its core about a – hopefully loving and nurturing – relationship, and is deeply intertwined with sex. That’s why punishments can also be relational and sexual – and aim at temporarily taking away the relationship and the sex from your slave. When choosing the right punishment in that area, you have to…
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Series: Punishments – IV. Sensory punishments
Your repertoire of punishments can draw from all senses. Through all our sense we can experience pleasure (think: eargasms or oral orgasms) as well as displeasure. Taste and smell The tongue is an extremely sensitive organ, and thus highly suited for pleasure as well as displeasure. You can go in two directions: give the tongue…
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Series: Punishments – III. Psychological punishments
Femdom, most of the time, is a mind game. That’s why punishments can also take place at a purely mental level. For instance, I always make sure to clearly communicate what upset me. These explanations tend to end up rather wordy – I have quite a tendency to indulge in them. In fact, some might…
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Series: Punishments – II. Pain and pleasure
Is punishment in a Femdom relationship meant to be fun? Consent and preference A 24/7 Femdom relationship should be based on a mutual understanding of and respect for the boundaries – which distinguishes it from abuse. The slave consents to submitting to his Mistress. Such consent, at least in a sane and healthy relationship, has…
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Series: Punishments – I. Purpose
In this series of posts, I want to discuss with you the different ways of punishment. We will of course talk about flogging, whipping, and other forms of impact play – but I want to focus a little bit on non-impact, or even non-physical types of punishment. Effective behavior-improving punishment does not automatically have to be…
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Proposal for a 24/7 relationship
A comprehensive proposal for a 24/7 Femdom household: housework, daily and weekly routine, the four keys, Sunday review, and public discretion. The free version stays here.
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Sleeping arrangements
Today’s post is somewhat personal. For a couple of years now, I have had a very light sleep. In fact, I have suffered from insomnia. As a result, not only have my days become difficult sometimes, but it has also been a challenge to come up with a sleeping arrangement that works well for me…