In this final post of the series on the four keys of Femdom relationship, we will lock the slave completely away.
Key 4: The jail cell
We all need to get out of our daily routines, sometimes. As the Mistress, I need personal space and time. To think, to exercise, to read, to just be. Likewise, the slave needs isolation to reflect on the extent of his submission. To think about how he pleased his Mistress and what more he can do. That’s where the jail cell comes in. The cell is at most 20 square feet / 2 square meters big. It contains a shower, a sink and a toilet. In other words: all the ingredients for a longer stay. Usually the question is not, whether and when he spends jail time. That is pretty clear. For all my activities mentioned above, whenever I need me-time – be it half an hour when I want to do some yoga without a dude watching and standing in the way, or when I binge-watch some Netflix – he’s on lockdown. Not just “down-there”, not just the hands and arms, but fully. The bigger decision is how he spends the time. Some weeks ago, I cuffed him to the wall and made him listen to Marie Kondo. Just to be on the same page when it comes to our approaches to keeping the house in order… Another time, the lockdown was more punitive. I made him wear nipple clamps and cuffed his hands behind his back and to the wall – an utterly uncomfortable position. If it’s just the space I need, I might even lock him in the cell completely unrestrained. Coming to think of, I actually cannot remember ever having been that nice. No matter what his predicament in that cell is, there is always a special feeling about hearing the key turning in the lock.
To me, BDSM and Femdom in particular is not just about whipping and fucking, but it’s rather an exercise in mindfulness. It is meant to foster thought processes about one’s behavior and relationship dynamic.
You own the keys
So what are main takeaways from my four posts? If you want a functioning Femdom relationship, all you need to do is hold the keys. Turning the key in the lock is the sign that it’s ON. As we will see in other posts, there are pitfalls in every such arrangements. But you will make it work.