Mistress Lucrecia I’m not into rewards. I command, I discipline, I punish if necessary. Serving me is the reward. However, when I feel that my slave has performed particularly well, I am willing to let him earn a reward. Note the word “earn”. Rewards do not come automatically – slave has to complete a challenge that is … Leer más
Talking too much can be a mood killer. However, BDSM requires a lot of communication and connection between the two (or more) people engaging in it. The best approach is to communicate extensively *before* engaging in play. For a successful scene, Domme and submissive need to know each to know each other’s wishes and boundaries. … Leer más
People type “long-term bondage” into a search box and mean three different nights. A weekend in rope. A month in a cage. A marriage where he does not get to decide when his hands are free. I live the third one. This post is what long-term bondage actually looks like in a household that also … Leer más
To me, Femdom is a way of life, which is why slave and I also live it outside the house. I would be lying if I were to tell you that I walk around town wearing my latex catsuit, holding my collared slave on a leash. Real life doesn’t work that way. Family, vanilla friends, … Leer más
My slave has the unfortunate habit of breathing through his mouth instead of his nose. I can’t stand it, which is why I decided to take things in my own hands. Why breathing through your mouth is bad According to WebMD, breathing through the mouth can dry out gums and the tissue that lines your … Leer más
Whenever we think about our sexual fantasies, we tend to quickly doubt ourselves. Am I weird? Am I the only one? However, in a world with 7 billion people and an equal amount of manifestations of sexual desires, the answer is generally: no, you are not. BDSM might fall in and out of fashion (think … Leer más
Your slave misbehaved, you took action and administered a specific punishment for a specific misdemeanor. As we saw in the first post of this series, the punishment is effective if it fits the deed. You put some thought in the beginning: you explained the reason for the treatment, and you set a course of action. … Leer más
Physical punishments can be divided in two groups. First is so-called impact-play, that is everything around spanking, caning, flogging, whipping, etc. There will be plenty of opportunities to talk about those methods. For this post, however, I want to list some other suggestions, that are slightly softer in nature, albeit physical. Strenuous workouts Make your … Leer más
As a Mistress, you will probably want to enforce or prohibit certain activities to punish your slave. Early bedtime, early morning routine A beautiful punishment, I find. Instead of letting him spend his evening going out or watching Netflix, making him go to bed early. With or without dinner – up to you. For sure, … Leer más
Femdom is at its core about a – hopefully loving and nurturing – relationship, and is deeply intertwined with sex. That’s why punishments can also be relational and sexual – and aim at temporarily taking away the relationship and the sex from your slave. When choosing the right punishment in that area, you have to … Leer más